A New Year


I had every intention of waiting until 2013 to put up a post. But then it seemed wrong to not send off 2012 in some sort of rambling nonsensical style.

I’ve enjoyed the last week. I’ve read books. I’ve watched movies. I’ve enjoyed my people. I’ve eaten my share of sugar cookies. And probably yours, too.

It’s been divine.

And the perfect way to end the year.

Later on in the week I’ll tell you all about Christmas and what we did and about my total obsession with The Hunger Games.

But right now I just wanted to list a few goals I have for 2013. That way I can look back on them next year at this time and feel like a failure. Or maybe not. I guess we’ll see.

And can we discuss that it’s going to be 2013? The other day I was in the car with Caroline and “1999” by Prince came on the radio. She said, “Mom. This sounds like an 80s song.”

“Yes. It is.” (It also sounds like pure awesome. Thank you very much.)

I explained that Prince was going to party like it was 1999 because it was going to be the end of a century and we’d probably all be flying around like the Jetsons by then.

“Who are the Jetsons?”

Kids have no sense of history.

Anyway, it is weird to think that I used to listen to “1999” and couldn’t imagine it because I’d be like twenty-eight by then and probably using a walker and wearing dentures. Which would be offset by the awesomeness of having my own robot.

And now, here it is 2013. I have no robot. I also don’t have a walker or dentures. Yet.

I don’t know what my point is except I guess that time goes by fast. So I’m going to party like it’s 2013. And try not to think about the fact that Prince is probably collecting Social Security checks by now.

So here are my goals because FOR THE LOVE get to the point.

1. I need to eat healthier.

This was also a goal for last year. And I did awesome until about April. Which is when I was gloriously reunited with baked potatoes and pasta.

And Peaches ‘N Herb were right. It felt so good.

But I’m going to detox a little after all the Christmas holiday indulgence. Man cannot live by toffee alone.

Which is really too bad.

2. Love.

This is my word for 2013. I want to love those around me better. Take time to focus on all the blessings God has put in my life. And to also remember that God loves me no matter what. I don’t have to earn it.

It seems like 2012 was a year where I was continually reminded that life is short and you never know how much time you have left. I want to be present in every moment.

3. Exercise.


But I’m 41. And if Cher can’t turn back time, then neither can I.

And that’s it.

See what I did there? When you only have three goals it makes them a lot easier to achieve.

I wish you all the happiest of New Year’s. May 2013 be filled with blessing upon blessing.

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  1. Vicki B says

    I’ve been pondering 2013 and came up with the same goals/hopes/dreams. Eating healthy and exercise can be so annoying. My thinking is for it to last both have to be somewhat enjoyable or I’ll drop it like a hot potato and grab the sour cream. I need to do stuff I loved doing as a kid which usually involved wheels of some sort and music. My mom took up tap dancing in her sixties and got the most fabulous pair of legs. Who knew tap dancing was such great exercise?! Giving those around us our undivided attention is becoming a priceless gift these days. Best wishes for a safe and wonderful New Year to you and your family. You certainly brought many moments of laughter in 2012 which was a wonderful way to start the day. Thank you.

  2. says

    Happy New Year, Melanie! Yes, the passage of time….where does it all go? As of next week I will be the parent of a teenager – and I seriously don’t know how that is possible.

    Blessings to you and your family this New Year – thanks for posting, I just love reading your blog!

  3. Allison A. says

    My word for 2013 (actually two words) is Choose Joy!

    Oh and my hubby took the hint and ordered your book for me for Christmas! Yay!

  4. Strawberry rose says

    That was a wonderful post to send out 2012! My word this year is rest. Rest in the Lord and have more time with just Him and me. Take care of myself and get enough sleep. Spend more time with my precious children who are growing up so fast. Thank you for the words you write here each day!

  5. says

    Thank you for posting today. I wouldnt want to ring in the New Year without reading your blog.
    Love those around me better- can I steal that resolution?

  6. says

    I wish man could live by fudge alone.

    On Friday I was transferring last year’s calendar info to this year’s calendar and found a page where I’d written goals for 2012. Perhaps I should have written them somewhere I actually look.

  7. says

    I think my word for 2013 is going to be trust. When I get all worked up NOT trusting God for outcome, that’s when I also find it hardest to love folks too, so that’s where I think I need to focus. I also am going to focus on exercising and eating well. Am also going to take two days off a week from blogging, which might feel freaky at first….

    Mary, momma to many

  8. says

    I *so* want my word to be “celebrate” for 2013 because (gulp) this is the year I’ll turn 50. HOLY TOLEDO, TALK ABOUT TIME MOVING FAST!

    But it’s not. In fact, it’s kind of the opposite of celebrate or not so much opposite but different. I’m not making sense, am I? But I’m not ready to say it out loud yet ’cause I need to process it a bit more.

    I haven’t written much in weeks for a whole host of reasons, but maybe (just maybe) I’ve been conserving energy for lots of writing in the new year. One can hope, right?

    Happiest of new years to you, friend, and I sure would smile if our paths cross this year. I’ll be wearing sparkly green earrings in your honor :).


  9. Colorado says

    Those are wonderful goals Big Mama! My words for 2013 are “new creation”, as in the verse from 2 Cor. 5:17. God is making us all new creations in Him. I claim this for 2013. And I will be a first-time Grandma this year too! Big changes coming……. hang on!

  10. Jenny says

    You are awesome. Those goals are pretty much the same as mine. Unfortunately, I think that when I eat better and exercise then I can love those around me more easily. Happy New Year!

  11. Anonymous says

    Oh Melanie. Yes, if only we could live on potatoes and pasta! Actually I did. Until — Oh my God — I’d gained 100 pounds! It started after menopause. I had an early menopause, I was 42, just 10 pounds a year, until . . . I had a health scare. That did the trick for me. Something clicked in my head. When I’d read those stories of women/men who’d lost 100 pounds that seemed IMPOSSIBLE. Here’s how I did it. First, I took baby steps. Teeny-tiny baby steps. I told NO one I was trying to lose weight. First I gave up potato chips. Just tried to give up one thing only. I’d walk by them at the store and shake inside. Yes, food had become an addition and I was in withdrawal. I gave myself a talking to: People give up cigarettes, alcohol. And that’s far harder. You CAN do it.

    After a week or two I realized I’d lived without chips for several weeks. Next I gave up chocolate cake (the grocery store where I shopped had a bakery that sold large, supposedly single servings to die for). I told myself I didn’t really need dessert every night. Funny, how I’d rationalized that! I promised myself one treat a week. Anything I wanted. Chocolate croissant, milk shake, popcorn drenched in butter, whatever. If I fell off the program, I forgave myself and went back. I never kept track of calories but I did weight myself everyday. For me it was very interesting. I’d stay at a certain weight for a week (even more sometimes), then drop 2 or 3 pounds. So I didn’t worry if it wasn’t going down everyday just so long as it kept going down. When I’d checked in with my OB-GYN and the scale showed I’d dropped 50 pounds he wanted to know “how I did it” — he wanted to lose 50#s himself.

    I said I didn’t do anything original. I did everything you ALREADY know. I walked around the store one day — after I’d eaten — and made a list of all the good stuff that I liked. Turned out to be a long list. I went back to eating the portions I’d eaten when I was at a normal weight. I just re-learned to eat. Very important — make your own diet. Make it to your tastes. For me it was way less carbs (no potatoes or pasta unless it was my treat night) more veggies, (I already loved fruit) and lots of FAT. My cholesterol counts are off the charts GREAT. My doctor asked how. I said lots of mayo, butter, bacon, sausage and full fat hamburgers. I read Scarsdale. He’s way too restrictive for me so I modified it until it was doable — for me.

    Here’s something VERY important. Listen closely: The more I practiced self-control the stronger my will power became. It’s like a muscle and needs exercise. I NEVER said “I’m going to lose 100#s”. I made tiny achievable goals. Like 5#s in one month. I did it VERY slowly. It took me four years but I’ve kept it off since then — and that was more than 15 years ago.

    I never went on a crazy exercise regime. I just walked. EVERYDAY. Worked up to a mile a day over time. I got a dog. He always wants to go for a walk. No excuses. (It takes me 20 to 30 minutes. You can find 20 minutes in your day just for yourself.) I still do it. It’s a promise I made to myself and my dog. Like they say: If I can do it, you can, too. Just know, you cannot do it overnight. Not even in a year. NO one wants to live on lettuce for one year straight. Good luck!

    Something funny. Some friends noticed when I’d lost 20#s, others only noticed after I’d lost more — like 50#s. A neighbor, who finally noticed, screamed — “oh no, do you have cancer?” Oy. Friends and relatives may notice, some won’t. Good luck all! And Happy New Year! May 2013 bring you and yours tidings of love and joy!

  12. Leigh says

    Mel, if you ate my share of the sugar cookies then I ate your share of the peanut butter/Hershey kiss cookies. And let’s not mention the snickerdoodles…

    My word/goal/desire for the new year is ‘fit’. I want to be fit physically, spiritually, relationally. It will be a work in progress all year I imagine. And as Anonymous above said, I will be taking baby steps.

    Happy new year to you. See you soon at dotMOM!

  13. Debra D. says

    Great post, as usual! My goals for 2013 are to continue with my weight loss (I’ve lost 40 pounds over 2012), continue running (have run 2 races and have 2 more planned for this season), spend more time with my hubby (we are new empty nesters), and most importantly, remember to live a life of praise to the King of Kings!

    And, by the way…”Who are the Jetsons?”…sigh….

  14. Carly says

    You can still have your pasta! Trader Joe’s makes a brown rice pasta that I PROMISE tastes just like the wheat pasta!