Memories

  • Our house was a very, very, very fine house


    When I was 5, my family moved to the suburbs. It was the mid-70’s and it was the thing to do. We lived in Houston and moved to a fairly new subdivision off of FM 1960. I remember my mama telling me that FM stood for farm to market road and it meant that this paved four lane road used to be nothing but a dirt path that farmers used to carry their produce to the local markets. It fascinated me to no end to think that, in my mind at least, just mere months before we moved there, the road was covered with old men in overalls pushing wheelbarrows full of produce.

    We moved in to our new two-story colonial-style home in April of 1976. I remember the month because I was enrolled in a new Kindergarten class just in time to participate in their theatrical performance of The Tortoise and the Hare. Since I was a latecomer, I was given the role of stand-by rabbit #4 and my costume consisted of a pink leotard and tights with a bonnet like thing with white bunny ears. It wasn’t nearly as splashy as the costume a girl named Amy got to wear, which was a full-hot pink bunny costume complete with a yellow fur tummy. Oh, I was envious and, in fact, months later when Amy and I became friends and I spent the night at her house, I saw the bunny costume hanging in her closet and suggested that I try it on. It was rabbit perfection, just as I had imagined.

    Anyway, I vaguely remember the day we moved into our new house on Misty Lea Lane. A few things stood out to me immediately. The first was that we had a fire hydrant in our front yard. I thought that was about the greatest thing ever and if, at the age of 5, I had been allowed to write the MLS listing of our new home it would have read like this: 4 BR, 2 1/2 BA, NEW CARPET AND FIRE HYDRANT IN FRONT YARD. The other feature that took my breath away was the fact that it was two stories. The stairs offered an endless amount of possibilities for entertainment. And lastly, the wallpaper in the entryway was a flocked, velvet texture in a lovely shade of avocado green. I remember feeling that wallpaper with my fingertips and thinking, “Lawsy, we sho’ is rich now Miz Scarlett.”

    One of the best features of the house was that the downstairs portion made a complete circle. If my friends and I wanted to play hide and seek, we could start in the formal living room, which led to the family room, which led to the breakfast area and kitchen, then the dining room and back to the living room. It allowed for endless games of chase. And there was a closet in the den, right next to the wet bar (love the 70’s and the requisite wet bar), that was tucked under the stairs so that the ceiling of it was slanted. It fascinated me to no end.

    All the bedrooms were upstairs with my parents’ bedroom on one side of the staircase and the other 3 bedrooms on the other side. I remember lying in bed at night, trying to gather up my courage to walk to their room, knowing I would have to walk past the stairs and heaven only knows what could have been lurking at the bottom of those stairs just waiting for a 6 year old in a Holly Hobby nightgown to walk by.

    I had my own room with a brass bed with an old-fashioned bedspread with yellow flowers on it but, in reality, my sister and I shared her bedroom. She had two twin beds with pink headboards, and I slept in the room with her every night because I gave new meaning to the word scaredy-cat. I’m not sure what kind of defense I thought a 3 year old in Winnie the Pooh pajamas would offer me from the boogeyman, but I felt better knowing she was there. Plus, when insomnia hit us, we had a playmate right in the next bed. And my sister always kept a stash of Sunmaid raisins in her nightstand drawer which, looking back, was sheer brilliance on her part.

    The remaining bedroom was a guest bedroom/playroom. It was filled with our Barbies and their townhome, complete with elevator, various baby dolls and doll beds, and a record player so that we could listen to The Bee-Gees or Olivia Newton-John. We spent hours playing in that room and Barbie put on many the concert with her Olivia Newton-John lipsynching skills.

    One of the best things that ever happened to that house was when my parents got it professionally landscaped. The landscapers filled the yard with flower beds covered in dark, pine mulch and each flower bed had a little ditch feature around it to keep the grass from encroaching on the bed. My friends and I would fill up those little moats with water, drag Barbie out there in her Winnebago and have a good, old fashioned Barbie campout complete with a river. It was treacherous terrain for Barbie and Ken, roughing it out there amongst the azaleas.

    We had a metal swing set with pastel-colored stripes winding around the legs. Whatever happened to the good old metal swingsets? They’ve been killed off by the wooden playscape, probably because all of the tetanus shots kids of the 70’s had to have after being cut by a sharp piece of metal sticking out of a see-saw.

    We would spend hours swinging and jumping out of our swings. Twisting them around and around until the chains creaked and couldn’t go any tighter, and then spinning wildly out of control, stumbling off the swing and falling facedown in the St. Augustine grass.

    The backyard also had a cement patio and it was the scene of much of my early rollerskating choreography. I would put on my new white rollerskates with lime green wheels and stoppers, and come up with routines that would make Olivia Newton-John and the entire cast of Xanadu weep with envy. It was just a matter of time before a talent scout discovered me on the back patio and begged me to come to Hollywood, or maybe just The Magic Skate.

    Our house was on a street with a cul-de-sac and there was never a shortage of kids to play with, night or day. This was back in the days when parents didn’t live in as much fear as we do now, and we were allowed to freely roam the streets of the neighborhood in pre-adolescent gangs, searching for the next game of kickball, freeze tag, or hide and seek. And finally, dusk would fall and you’d hear mamas all up and down the street calling for their kids to come inside and eat supper. My best friend, Caroline Fletcher, lived two houses down and we probably killed the neighbors’ lawns in between our houses with all the running back and forth we did all day long.

    I’m the one on the end with the goofy look on my face. Obviously, I have always been shy and reserved.

    We lived in the house until the summer before I started 7th grade. By then, Caroline Fletcher and her family had moved away and so had several other families. I guess on to bigger and better parts of suburbia. My parents had gotten divorced, so my mama moved us to Beaumont to live down the street from her mama and daddy. We moved into a smaller house in Beaumont, one that holds just as many memories, but memories of teen years and bedroom walls filled with Homecoming mums and cheerleader pom-poms.

    When I think of my childhood home, I always think of the yellow two-story house on Misty Lea Lane with the white shutters and a mailbox out front that my Big Bob built that was a perfect replica of the big house. It was the place where I built my memories of childhood; long summer nights filled with fireflies and kick the can, 4th of July block parties in the cul-de-sac, walking home from the bus stop after a long day of school, and riding my blue bike with the flowered banana seat up and down the block while Caroline Fletcher rode her Green Machine right next to me. Memories I wouldn’t trade for anything in the world, memories that surprise me even now as I sit here with tears in my eyes, filled with more nostalgia than should be allowed.

    If you want to share memories of your childhood home, head on over to Mary at Owlhaven’s for more information. Or if you just want to read some other memories, then go check out all the links.

    Meanwhile, I’m off to help Caroline create some childhood memories of her own.

  • Here’s hoping Target still sells orange cover ups

    I’ve been racking my brain the entire weekend, or at least for the last 5 minutes, trying to figure out how on earth I’m going to sum up this weekend without writing a novel. Let’s face it, brevity isn’t my gift even when I don’t have anything to say. I think I might write a weeklong series about our trip to the coast, but instead of a week, it will just be a two-day series because I’m not that ambitious. Just think of it like a mini-series along the lines of “Lonesome Dove”, but without the fine, literary quality. Or Robert Duvall.

    Therefore, probably without the Emmy Awards also.

    But who cares? I’ve got two days worth of writing material and I’m going to enjoy it. Especially since my brain froze up last week and I could no longer write with all the words that a blog requires. Apparently y’all don’t come over here to stare at blank space.

    We spent this past weekend in Rockport, Texas with the Jones family (and no, their last name isn’t really Jones, but it will be here for the sake of the internet). We had a great time and Caroline spent pretty much the entire drive home asking why we couldn’t turn the car around and go back. Obviously, she was completely homesick.

    For the coast.

    P first met the Jones family about 16 years ago when his little brother became friends with Stew, who is B and Cindy Jones’ oldest son. They invited P to join them at the coast one weekend back in 1991, introduced him to the world of bay fishing, and his life hasn’t been the same since. I’d like to say that marrying me was the most profound thing that has happened in P’s life but, truth be told, it may have been the day he caught his first redfish.

    When P and I first began dating way back in 1995, he talked about the Jones family a lot. I had been around their son, Stew, a bunch of times because he spent a lot of time at the ranch with P’s brother having contests to see who could go the longest without showering or wear the worst looking clothes to Garcia’s Mexican restaurant. Sixteen year old boys are awesome to hang out with when you’re trying to find a romantic moment with your boyfriend, by the way. I highly recommend it. But anyway, in addition to Stew, the Jones’ also have two daughters, Dea and Cat.

    During the summer of ’96, I was invited to join them at their house in Rockport. I was thrilled at this acknowledgement of legitimate, potential future wife of P status and also, a little nervous because I had a feeling that if I didn’t pass the test, it could be a deal breaker.

    I must have passed the test because I was invited back several times over the course of that summer of ’96 and pretty much every summer since then. It’s one of my favorite places and holds so many memories of when P and I were just a couple of crazy, young, and, most importantly, thin kids in love.

    As I looked around the familiar coast house this weekend, it was weird to think of how much has changed since my first visit all those years ago. I remember the first time I met Dea and Cat, they were just little junior high girls that spent most of the day making friendship bracelets with a bunch of their junior high friends or drawing pictures with markers. This time, it was my daughter playing with the markers and Dea and Cat were there with their husbands, and Cat’s expecting her own baby in January. Stew came upstairs last night and announced he was going out to meet some friends, and I was kind of surprised until I realized that since he’s an almost 30 year old man, he’s pretty much free to do what he wants to do, whenever he wants to do it.

    Everybody has grown up.

    One of my most vivid, if not necessarily favorite, memories of being at the coast is a trip we took two weeks after P and I got married. B & Cindy invited just P and me down for a weekend of fishing. We were so excited. It was going to be like a honeymoon after the honeymoon.

    That Saturday morning we got up bright and early which, looking back, assures me that I was totally and completely in love with P even back then, because me and 5 a.m.? Don’t really go together. These days I wouldn’t attend a shoe sale at Nordstroms at 5 a.m., much less get up to go catch fish. Anyway, we headed out in the boat, and after a morning of fishing without much success, decided to try something a little more adventurous and go fish out in the surf. And I was all, “SURE! GREAT! LET’S FISH IN THE SURF! IT WILL BE AWESOME! WHOO-HOO!”

    Because that was back when I was young and naive and said “WHOO-HOO!” and had no idea that I suffer from the horrible wretchedness that is the seasickness. Although, looking back, the fact that I have trouble riding in the backseat of a car should have been a prime indicator that perhaps the rough, tumultuous ocean would not be my friend. But I was IN LOVE! NEWLY MARRIED! BIRDS WERE SINGING AND BELLS WERE RINGING! I CAN DO ANYTHING!

    Except for be on a boat with all the rocking motions with all the rocking and the rocking.

    And the rocking.

    We anchored the boat in the surf and I immediately started to sense that this wasn’t going to end well. And then, B started to pull bait out of the livewell, which is the smell equivalent of a 4 day old tunafish sandwich sitting in the hot sun, and I felt certain that P was about to see a side of his new bride that he had never dreamed existed. I tried to fight it as they started casting out their lines and, much to my dismay, actually catching fish. Big fish. Big, nice trout. I’ve never liked to be the one to end the party so I continued to think happy thoughts about dry land and steady ground.

    It worked really well until the next big wave hit. It sent me running for the side of the boat and I leaned over very gracefully and delicately, I’m sure, and deposited everything I had eaten for the last 6 months in the ocean. Over and over again. P yelled to B that we were going to need to leave and B looked over, saw me leaning halfway out of the boat and thought I was pulling up the anchor in my haste to leave. When he realized that I was, in fact, throwing up my small intestine, he grabbed the anchor himself, pulled it up and got me to dry land as quickly as possible.

    It was just a delicate, sweet moment of newlywed bliss. Some couples wait years to have the privilege of seeing their spouse throw up repeatedly in front of dear, old family friends. It warms my heart to this day to realize P had that blessing after just 2 weeks.

    Yesterday evening, we were sitting around the living room at the coast talking about old memories and how much has happened over the years and Cat and Dea started talking about the first time they ever met me. Cat said, “I used to think you were the most beautiful girl I had ever seen.” And I said, “Used to? What’s all this ‘used to’ business?” She and Dea agreed that they thought I was so beautiful because I was so tan and wore this orange coverup that made me look even more tan. And beautiful. Did I mention beautiful?

    So, good news! I’m thinking if I can just get a little more sun and find that orange coverup and, perhaps, a time machine, I can regain my status as “the most beautiful girl” Cat and Dea have ever seen. Or maybe not. Especially considering that they’ve moved on in life and their horizons for comparison have widened beyond the world of 12 year old girls with braces on their teeth who sit next to them in Pre-Algebra.

    The tables have turned or, should I say, the tide has shifted. Now they’re the ones in their 20’s, all tanned and fabulous, and I’m the girl with braces on my teeth.

    Who throws up over the side of boats.

    Stay tuned for the conclusion of this two part series tomorrow, when I’ll actually talk about what happened this weekend instead of rambling about things that happened 10 years ago.

    I know y’all are on the edge of your seats.

  • Those were the days of my life

    My freshman year of college, which is really synonymous with a time in my life when I was absolutely brilliant and full of wisdom, I lived in Mosher Hall. Mosher was part of a group of 2 girl dorms and 2 boy dorms with a common area consisting of a T.V. room, a cafeteria, a snackbar, and a little mini-mart type thing. Appropriately, these dorms were named The Commons.

    I have very few memories from this year because, let’s face it, I can barely remember what happened yesterday. Plus, I hadn’t met Gulley yet, and Gulley is really the only reason I remember anything from college because she remembers it for me and then tells me what a good time we had.

    I really need to do some kind of brain exercises before I find myself cutting into people’s wedding cakes.

    Anyway, I have two vivid memories of living in Mosher my freshman year.

    And oh yes, y’all get to hear both of them.

    First, it was always FREEZING cold. I mean teeth chattering, bone chilling, need a parka, cold. I spent most of my time in my dorm room wearing maroon sweatpants with AGGIES written down the leg (nice), and wrapped in the comforter from my bed which is, ironically, the comforter that P now sleeps with every night.

    I developed a major head cold about 2 weeks into the fall semester due to the cold, and never really recovered. I pretty much spent the rest of the semester drinking Nyquil straight from the bottle. Which may explain why I don’t remember anything.

    And also my grade point average.

    My other memory of life in Mosher is, apparently, I was not the only driven, focused student scheduling my classes around Days Of Our Lives. I would rush home from class every day at 11:45 to get back in time for Days. One day I realized it was on the T.V. in the Commons area and there were about 25 people gathered around the T.V. watching and discussing critical plot points.

    It was like a non-intellectual book club. And I was hooked.

    I spent the rest of the semester watching Days Of Our Lives with people I didn’t know and never got to know because our only common thread was our concern over what Stefano DiMera was plotting against the Brady family. I’d sit and watch, while drinking my Nyquil, and then stick around long enough after the credits rolled to hear everyone’s input on that day’s episode.

    Right now, my dad is reading this while he sits at his desk and I can’t even imagine the pride he feels.

    I hadn’t thought about this in years, but then last night I was up way too late watching T.V. and a commercial came on for Days Of Our Lives. It showed snippets of what’s coming up in the next few weeks and the plotlines are EXACTLY the same.

    Bo loves Hope. Hope loves Bo. Tony DiMera is back and plotting evil (shout out to Gulley who does the best Tony DiMera impersonation EVER and can crack me up to this day when she busts it out). Stefano is back and has to be 152 years old, but yet is still plotting doom and destruction for the Brady family.

    At one point, there was even a clip that featured Hope saying, “We’re going to kick some DiMera butt!”

    And I was all like, what is this, this is terrible, who would watch this? The acting is horrible, the plots are terrible, the whole show is just a waste.

    I was even going to blog about it right at that very moment.

    But then, Beverly Hills 90210 came back from commercial and I forgot all about it.

    Now that’s a show.

  • Back in the days when department store Santas were a dime a dozen

    I came across these pictures the other day and thought since it’s Christmas time and all, I would share them with y’all.

    The first is a picture of me with Santa when I was about 2 1/2 years old. Legend has it that my mom had run into Sears to pick up an order, turned around and I was gone. She searched frantically until she looked up and noticed me sitting on Santa’s lap.

    I love this story even more now because it tells me how much Caroline is like her mama. I wasn’t a cup pourer either. I was ready to meet some folk.

    The second picture is my favorite because it’s obvious that this wasn’t a planned trip to see Santa. Please note my sister’s footy pajamas and the rollers in my hair. In all fairness, I did spend over 3/4 of my childhood with pink foam rollers in my hair, but they were usually removed in time for any social occasion.

    I’m also particularly fond of my all denim ensemble and the tough guy vibe I’m putting out. I’m five, I’m in kindergarten, I can count to ten in Spanish…don’t mess with me.


    And is it just me or does that Santa look a little shifty? It’s like he sees an officer of the law out of the corner of his eye and is starting to get a little nervous.

    Another thing about these vintage 70’s Santas (other than their sweet, sweet white thrones with red pom pom fringe) is that they have obviously fake beards. The one at the top looks like he took his girlfriend’s wig from her Diana Ross Halloween costume, dyed it white and stuck in on his face.

    As for the one at the bottom, the more I look at him, the more I’m convinced he might have been a member of the witness protection program.

  • Thanksgiving past and present

    In honor of Thanksgiving, I thought I would take a trip down memory lane to share some past Thanksgivings in the life of Big Mama.

    1. My childhood memories of Thanksgiving are vague. I think we were usually at my grandparents’ homes and that I longed for the day that I could graduate from the kids’ table to the adult table. Seeing as how my 22 year old cousin was still sitting at the kids’ table, I had longer to wait than I even realized.

    2. After my Nanny and Big Bob bought their lakehouse in Colmesneil,Texas, we spent most of our Thanksgivings there. I remember tons of food, lots of bustling around the kitchen to get everything ready and Big Bob raking huge piles of leaves in the yard that my sister and I would spend hours jumping in and scattering everywhere.

    3. I graduated from Texas A&M so Thanksgivings throughout my college years (all 5 of them) were spent at various locations depending on whether or not A&M and t.u. were playing at Kyle Field or in Austin. I loved when the game was at Kyle Field because we’d all go to Aggie Bonfire the night before the game and then eat Thanksgiving lunch at Nena’s house the day of the game while nursing “minor” hangovers from overindulgence of adult beverages the night before. This was back in the glory days of Aggie football when we knew without a doubt that we’d beat the hell outta t.u. that night.

    One of those Thanksgivings was the scene of the infamous episode in which Nena said that my current boyfriend was so good looking that if he asked her to run away with him, she’d say “Hold on, let me get my purse.”

    4. The years that the game was in Austin, my group of friends would get some sad hotel room that was probably more mo than ho. We’d stay out on 6th Street way too late and then the next morning, we’d head over to the RV where the Kilgore crew would be tailgating. Thanksgiving lunch consisted of a wide variety of foods including barbecue and chips and queso. We loved it. We’d sit around pregame and attach bolls of cotton to our large hoop earrings to signify that Yes Ma’am, we were going to the Cotton Bowl and the horns were not. Have I mentioned that it was a glorious time in Aggie football history?

    5. P and I had been dating for several months when he invited me to spend Thanksgiving with his family. His mama wrote me a nice note of invitation and I accepted. I knew for sure I wanted to marry him when instead of pumpkin pie, his mama served homemade chocolate ice box pudding for dessert. It was the best thing I’d ever tasted and I thought to myself that this family knows how to do things right. Sign me up.

    6. The first year P and I were married, we drove seven hours to the Lakehouse to spend the holiday with my family. It is a trip that will go down in our family history. It included events such as P buying an Elvis clock complete with swiveling hips at the local gas station where a cashier remarked that “Honey, if I had a dime for every piece of Elvis memorabilia at my house, I’d be a rich, rich woman” and Big Bob getting upset that someone had put out his burning pile of leaves and proceeding to drink too much vodka. Big Bob didn’t drink EVER, so you can imagine the effect the vodka had on him. He spent most of the day passed out in his recliner. Nanny was furious, but the memory cracks me up to this day.

    7. When Caroline was three months old we drove to Houston to spend Thanksgiving with Mimi and Bops (before they moved here, obviously). Since I was in the midst of incredible sleep deprivation, all I really remember is that I prayed Caroline would at least sleep while I ate lunch and she did. Also, my sister and her husband drove three hours and were right at the city limits when their transmission started to break. They turned around and drove back home thinking that they needed to be home to get their car fixed. They got up the next morning and decided it was worth the trip to drive all the way back in another car to spend Thanksgiving with us. We refer to it as the Thanksgiving Miracle of 2003.

    8. Last year, we had Thanksgiving lunch at Mimi and Bops’ house, who now live just a mile away. Caroline was in a terrible mood all morning, so I put her down for a nap while we ate. She woke up as we were finishing and didn’t want to eat anything. I carried her into the T.V. room and she laid on my chest, looked up at me and said “Mama, my mouth feels funny” and then threw up all over me. The fact that I didn’t immediately throw up after her is the Thanksgiving Miracle of 2005. She had a stomach virus, threw up for the next 8 hours and in the true spirit of giving gave it to P and me 2 days later. I have to be honest, I wasn’t that thankful.

    Seriously, I am so grateful for all of the friends and family I have spent this holiday with over the years. Each year has its own set of memories and that’s what life is all about. I’m thankful for P because plain and simple, my life would not be my life without him in it. I’m thankful for Caroline because she is the light that makes my life a little brighter. I’m thankful for my family and all that they mean to me. I’m thankful for Gulley who has been making me laugh for over seventeen years. Gulley, you have to tell me when you go off cheese.

    And most of all, I’m thankful for God. I’m thankful that He is the giver of all good gifts and He has blessed me with many.

    You are my God, and I will give you thanks;
    You are my God, and I will exalt you.
    Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good;
    his love endures forever.
    Psalm 118: 28-29
    Happy Thanksgiving, Y’all!
  • I don’t care if it’s Chuck E. Cheese, no rat is a good rat

    I was talking to AJ on the phone tonight and she was telling me she was on her way to buy some rat poison because the house she is renting with another girl has a little bit of a rat problem. Last week, she decided that the problem was the bag of dog food she was keeping in the laundry room, so she went and bought a heavy duty trash can to store the food. She went out of town for three days and got home tonight to discover that the rats had chewed through the industrial strengh trash can.

    Chewed through the trash can.

    It reminded me of my own rat story. Ahh, fond memories.

    When P and I were newly married, a family friend offered us free rent in one of his townhomes in exchange for P acting as a leasing manager for the complex. We were young and poor, so we jumped at the chance.

    The townhomes were built around the 1950’s and really quaint. The one we lived in was two stories with hardwood floors and I just loved it.

    One night, while we were sleeping, P jumped up and said “Did you see that?” He’s notorious for talking in his sleep so I didn’t pay that much attention. “What? Did I see what?” He said, “It was a gray, furry thing that ran across the floor.” Umm, yeah sure…go back to sleep.

    Two mornings later, P got up early to go hunting and as he was drinking his coffee, he felt something staring at him. It was a family of baby possums huddled in the corner of our kitchen. So, he grabbed his gun and went hunting in the comfort of his own home.

    I’m kidding.

    The possums scurried out a small hole in the kitchen baseboards. So the next night, P put a Have a Heart trap in our kitchen. It was a tip we’d seen on Martha Stewart for catching wildlife that live in your home.

    The next morning, P goes downstairs fully expecting to see some possums, but instead sees that he has caught a rat. A big, nasty, fat rat. And from what he told me later, the rat lunged at the side of the cage and hissed at him. This was no Jerry mouse, my friends.

    Of course at that point, I felt like we were living under siege. I was completely grossed out to the point of never wanting to step foot in the kitchen again.

    The next night, P was out playing basketball with some friends. I was home by myself, minding my own business, when I start hearing rustling noises coming from the kitchen. Not wanting to come face to face with any member of the phylum rodentia, I run over to the doorway of the kitchen and flip on the light thinking the light will scare whatever it is away.

    Well, the light came on in time for me to see a piece of half eaten toast go flying across the kitchen floor. The worst part (well, maybe not the worst part, but still very bad) was that we don’t even eat toast. This creature was flinging half eaten toast of an unknown origin across my kitchen.

    P came home to find me just slightly undone by this turn of events, so once again the trap came out followed by a good, solid round of rat poison and boarding up any potential gateways to the outdoors that existed in our kitchen.

    And that was the end of our rat problem.

    And we moved out a month later.