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You are here: Home / Seriously / So, it’s been a year

So, it’s been a year

December 31, 2009 ·

I’ve never been one to make a lot of New Year’s resolutions. Maybe it’s because they are very similar to goals and, honestly, who needs that kind of pressure?

However, if I were the type of person to make resolutions then I’m ahead of the game because I’ve already accomplished something significant and the new year hasn’t even begun.

That’s right. I will ring in 2010 smelling of cucumber and aloe. I felt like I should treat my underarms to the aloe after all they have endured with the Degree Cool Sport for Men for the last month.

It seems that since this is my last post of 2009 that I should write some sort of recap of the year but I don’t really know what to say about 2009. I won’t remember it as a great year and I won’t remember it as a bad year. It’s just been a year. Don’t get me wrong, there have been a lot of fun times and I’ve had more moments than I can recall where I have laughed until I’ve cried. There has been much joy and sweetness.

But in some ways I’ve spent a lot of the past year feeling a little stagnant. I started the year feeling like I kind of knew where life was headed, but then it just seemed to stall out a little. And the truth of it is that I think I’m the one who stalled. I just got tired and lost my way a little bit.

I was reading through Judges the other day (Yes, I’m a little behind in my plan to read the Bible in a year. Don’t judge me. Get it? Don’t judge me? Because I’m in Judges? Just a little nerdy Christian humor.) and came to the story of Gideon in Judges 6. The Israelites have been invaded by the Midianites and they are totally oppressed by them. In the midst of all this, there is a man named Gideon who is threshing wheat in a winepress. Normally, according to the wheat-threshing experts, he’d thresh his wheat out in the open. But he’s afraid of the Midianites and so he is hiding.

And while he is hiding out, an angel appears to him and says “The Lord is with you, mighty warrior.” Oh, how I love an angel who deals in irony. Mighty warrior? Gideon is hiding. He’s threshing his wheat in fear and yet the angel calls him a mighty warrior.

The angel has come to tell him that God is going to use him to deliver the Israelites from Midian. At first, Gideon doesn’t believe it. In fact, he asks God for a sign two different times to make sure he’s heard Him right.

Ultimately he ends up being exactly what the angel called him, a mighty warrior. He defeats the Midianites using only three hundred men. Do you see what God did there? He called what was not as though it were. That’s what God does. In Romans 4:17 it says He is “the God who gives life to the dead and calls things that are not as though they were.”

God sees what we can’t see. He sees something where there is nothing. And, even though I’ve read the story of Gideon and had that revelation before, I read it with fresh eyes the other day. I needed the reminder that God sees something in me that I don’t see in myself. I see all my fears and insecurities and worries and just general yuck, but He looks at me and sees something entirely different. He sees something He can use for His plans and purposes.

Honestly, I don’t really know what that looks like right now. This has been a year of Him changing my heart about some things and keeping my heart hoping for some others. It’s been a year of me wanting to know all the answers, but at the same time realizing that knowing all the answers doesn’t require faith.

All that to say that I want 2010 to be about hearing His voice. Because He sees something where there is nothing and I want to see what He sees.

I wish you all a 2010 full of lots of happy and joy. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it another thousand times, this blog wouldn’t be any fun without every single one of you. Thank you.

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  1. Carol Davis

    December 31, 2009 at 1:50 am

    Amen! You’ve got a great platform to use for His glory!

  2. Stefanie

    December 31, 2009 at 1:51 am

    I can’t wait to see what He sees either but I needed a pep talk and maybe I need to take to my bible to find it.

  3. Traci

    December 31, 2009 at 5:44 am

    Amen sister! You inspire me. In fact, it was you who got me to reading the bible in a year back in Sept. You would not believe the attempts I made, only to fail miserable right around the book of Job. But this time, I am even AHEAD!!! I am loving God’s word and even looking forward to getting in it. Thank you for this blog. Thank you for you. Happy New Year!!!

  4. Terry in Indiana

    December 31, 2009 at 6:26 am

    What a wonderful resolution for 2010! I too want to see what God sees and where He leads me in the next year! I’m so glad I discovered your website and thank you for entertaining me these past several months since. Happy New Year to you and yours!

  5. Carrie

    December 31, 2009 at 6:53 am

    Well said Big Mama. May we all want to see what God see in 2010. Thank you for your post.

  6. mia

    December 31, 2009 at 7:06 am

    amen. excellent post – and i really needed to read that this morning.

    You are so blessed.. love reading your blog.. blessed, blessed, blessed 🙂

  7. beckypdj

    December 31, 2009 at 7:16 am

    2010 is the year of hearing. We must hear from Him so we know the plans and purposes he has for us.

    I needed this reminder about Gideon this morning. I was in a situation last night and didn’t feel I reacted like a faith filled child of God. I was afraid and I have been pretty hard on myself ever since. I will see myself as God sees me and I will see others as God sees them.

    Great post, thanks for the encouragement.

  8. Pam

    December 31, 2009 at 7:26 am

    2009 was a year of laughter and tears…cancer…a wedding…the announcement that a baby would be joining our family…sometimes I trusted…some times I begged…the Lord heard it all…knows the outcomes….I’m thankful I don’t really have to be “in charge”…
    Jer 29:11-13…His plan NOT mine…trust and obey…God Bless…thank you for the laughter and smiles…Pam, South Bend

  9. Leslie

    December 31, 2009 at 7:47 am

    Mmm. Good post. “Calls things that are not as though they were.” I’m chewing on that today. I check in almost every day, but don’t often comment. Praying for a wonderful 2010 for you and your sweet family!

  10. Melissa H

    December 31, 2009 at 7:55 am

    Thank you! I needed to hear this today!

  11. Kimberly

    December 31, 2009 at 7:58 am

    Thanks Melanie. I really needed to hear this too. Knowing that God sees potential outside of my mess is so encouraging. I’m excited to see what God has in store for each of us this year. Happy New Year!

  12. Amanda @ Serenity Now

    December 31, 2009 at 8:06 am

    Happy New Year, Melanie! 🙂 Your New Years Resolution hits home for me. I get way too “busy” with things and I neglect taking the time to “be still” and listen for His voice. I pray I will make an effort with that this year!

    Hope your plans for tonight are more exciting than mine! 🙂

  13. Rachelle

    December 31, 2009 at 8:10 am

    Good post. Here’s to hearing Him in 2010.

  14. Kelly @ The Beauty of Sufficient Grace

    December 31, 2009 at 8:22 am

    A very worthy “goal”…I am with you…hearing Him in 2010. What else matters beyond that? Thank you for sharing your heart on this. I have battled the stagnancy a little myself in 2009. Looking to Him for renewal…He is always faithful!

    Thank you for all the laughs this past year…looking forward to laughing with you in the next one!

  15. Deidre

    December 31, 2009 at 8:25 am

    I love that story. Thanks for the reminder. You’re right, being able to see what is ahead doesn’t require faith. That’s the toughest part, I think.

    Happy 2010!

  16. elaine

    December 31, 2009 at 8:26 am

    Thank you Melanie,

    I need those verses and the reminder that God sees me different than I see me.

    God bless you and your family.

    Elaine

  17. Michele

    December 31, 2009 at 8:31 am

    I LOVE this resolution. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and prays for 2010.

  18. Erin

    December 31, 2009 at 8:35 am

    Amen to that my prayer has been:

    God I want to see You
    God I want to hear You
    God I want to know You
    So that I can follow hard after you every day.

    From: “Becoming More than a Good Bible Study Girl.” Lysa Terkeurst

  19. Anne

    December 31, 2009 at 8:41 am

    thanks so much for this. It blessed me. Happy New Year to you and your sweet family!

  20. Tootie

    December 31, 2009 at 8:46 am

    Thanks for sharing that story! What a good reminder that anything is possible.

    Happy 2010!

  21. Joc

    December 31, 2009 at 8:47 am

    Thank you so much for this post! Many Blessings!

  22. rhonda

    December 31, 2009 at 8:48 am

    I think a lot of us feel the same way. Faith is so very hard and I know I often forget “without faith it is impossible to please God.” Thanks for the reminder. Have a Happy New Year!

  23. Dawn @ Wherever He Leads

    December 31, 2009 at 8:52 am

    Thank you for this! I cannot tell you how much I needed to read this today. 2009 was not a good year for us. I am really looking forward to a fresh start in 2010 and in listening to God, as you have so eloquently said. I think the lack of listening is why 2009 was stinky. So I am breaking out the q-tips in 2010!

  24. sherry mcvicker

    December 31, 2009 at 8:54 am

    thanks for that insight! love it! i love your blog because you can make me laugh to the point of tears and make me ponder things of eternal significance. happy 2010!

  25. andrea

    December 31, 2009 at 9:00 am

    girl u can bring it!!

    that is good stuff!!!
    thank u for sharing your journey of life with us!!
    u r awesome!!

  26. Sarah M

    December 31, 2009 at 9:03 am

    Thanks for this, Big Mama! I agree with you in that it’s been “a year”. Thanks for this good “Word” and for always making me smile. Happy New Year and sorry about your Aggies last weekend in the football game…I was rooting for y’all… 🙂

  27. heidig

    December 31, 2009 at 9:06 am

    I love lurking daily and reading your blog. Happy New Year!

  28. CathyT

    December 31, 2009 at 9:09 am

    Your words were timely for me today. Thank you!

    CathyT

  29. Lauren Kelly

    December 31, 2009 at 9:09 am

    I couldn’t have said it better myself. What you’re hoping for in the upcoming year is what I believe we’re all hoping for.

    So glad I found your blog this year 🙂

  30. Debra

    December 31, 2009 at 9:09 am

    Mornin’ Melanie!

    Thanks for your honesty, sense of humor, perseverance, and just keepin’ it real!! I enjoy your blog so much!! Have a wonderful new year!

    debra

  31. Bettina

    December 31, 2009 at 9:10 am

    What a perfect post to end a year/start a new one!! My oldest son asked me yesterday what my resolutions are and I told him I had quit making resolutions because I always break them pretty quickly. I think I have changed my mind, though and will make a resolution to hear HIM and, hopefully, to not be like Gideon and ask him for signs twice before I actually believe it’s HIM. Thank you for for your wonderful blog. I look forward to it every day.

  32. melinda

    December 31, 2009 at 9:17 am

    Well Melanie, my year has been stinky. Like if you forgot your Cucumber-Aloe deodorant for, say, the 17 months of Texas summer. Yeah, that stinky.

    I NEEDED to hear these words today. I NEED to see what God sees and KNOW that it is SO MUCH GREATER than what I see. And I need to REMEMBER that it’s POSSIBLE.

    Thank you, friend. Here’s hoping for a fresh, cucumber-aloe sort of year for us both.

  33. Ellen Roth

    December 31, 2009 at 9:19 am

    Long time reader, first time commenter. I resonate with you! I, too, want to hear His voice clearly this year. I am retiring from teaching at the end of the school year after 33 years of teaching, mostly Junior High kids! I feel God has something else for me to do, I don’t know what it is yet, but I want to be ready. I want to become disciplined so He can use me, at 55, for His purposes. I am excited about the possibilities, but I know me, and I know without Him, I will not be able to be disciplined in mind, body, and spirit. (I want to lose 30 lbs, too!) Keep up the great work on this blog–I never miss it!

  34. daniella

    December 31, 2009 at 9:30 am

    And I’ve said it before and will say it again: On some mornings you make my day and bring me much needed laughter, which is much needed in order for me not to go postal on my two kids. I never told you this in fear that it will freak you out, but I really always believed that one day you’ll be a published author; you NEED to write a book, whether it’s a fun/funny fiction or something else. Whatever it will be, I’ll be the first to buy it and tell everyone I know about it. That’s right, just like the Bible.

    No pressure, Melanie.

    I too don’t have a New Years’ resolution. I simply asked the Lord that He help me live everyday (survive potty training, sleepless nights with infant, frizzy hair and dirty yoga pants, etc etc) that it would bring Him glory. I won’t get it right every day, but I made a pact that I’ll be honest and keep it real when talking to Him. Ask Him for help and put my pride away. Basically, give up being Betty Draper. Amen.

    Happy New Year friend!

  35. Rena

    December 31, 2009 at 9:41 am

    Happy New Year, Melanie!

  36. Katherine @ Grass Stains

    December 31, 2009 at 9:42 am

    And the Internet wouldn’t be any fun without YOU! Bold, sweeping generalization? Yes. But true. 😉 Happy new year to you, too!

  37. Sandy

    December 31, 2009 at 9:42 am

    God’s Blessings to you and your family this new year. Thank you for sharing your life and your witness.

  38. Marla Taviano

    December 31, 2009 at 9:45 am

    Not sure how to sum up 2009. Lots of doubting and trusting and watching God do incredible things.

    Met a sweet gal named Melanie and her daughter Caroline along the way, so that was pretty cool.

    After finishing up a very big adventure, I’ve felt pretty lost for the past 4 months. Now what?

    I desperately want to hear God’s voice in 2010, which may (will) involve keeping my mouth shut more often. Looking forward to what He has in store for both of us in the year ahead!

    You’re a blessing!!

  39. CG's Mama

    December 31, 2009 at 9:50 am

    I just love how you said this:

    Honestly, I don’t really know what that looks like right now. This has been a year of Him changing my heart about some things and keeping my heart hoping for some others. It’s been a year of me wanting to know all the answers, but at the same time realizing that knowing all the answers doesn’t require faith.

    Thanks. Happy happy everything to you and yours. May God bless us ALL this coming year.

  40. Stephanie

    December 31, 2009 at 9:58 am

    Thank you Melanie for being here everyday!

  41. Superchikk

    December 31, 2009 at 10:00 am

    That was just what I needed today. (The Gideon stuff, not the Secret Cucumber and Aloe.)

  42. Mindy

    December 31, 2009 at 10:09 am

    Good stuff, Melanie! Thanks for being so open and honest. Many blessings and quiet moments for you and your family in 2010!

  43. Nancy

    December 31, 2009 at 10:15 am

    Just wanted to let you know that we started reading the Bible to our kids at the beginning of 2009, and are currently on Judges 14, so don’t feel bad! At this rate, we will read through it in approximately 4 years, I think. :o) We’ll stick with it if you will . . . 🙂

  44. D

    December 31, 2009 at 10:16 am

    hey, thanks for the encouragement to read through the Bible in a year. i am way off the schedule of dates and scriptures – somewhere in the middle of Numbers. i have re-read some passages that i had forgotten about and read some that i had never read before.

    thanks for Romans 4:17

    hoping your new year is wonderful !

  45. Judy

    December 31, 2009 at 10:22 am

    I always think of the words to a song that says, “When others saw a shepherd boy (David), God saw a king”

    Well said, Melanie!

    May the New Year bring you and your whole family JOY beyond description!

  46. Candace

    December 31, 2009 at 10:22 am

    I’ve read your blog for several years now and this is one of my favorite posts :).

  47. Aja

    December 31, 2009 at 10:36 am

    I love this. He IS a God that calls things that are not, as though they were.. Thanks for the reminder.

    Hope you have a wonderful new year!

  48. shelley

    December 31, 2009 at 10:41 am

    thank you. God really spoke to me through your words about His Words. 2009 was a pretty awful year for me but I have been praying that 2010 will bring clarity and purpose. This is a good reminder of how God works. I needed to hear it.

  49. Mere

    December 31, 2009 at 10:42 am

    Wow. Thank you so much.

  50. Kim

    December 31, 2009 at 10:42 am

    Calls things that are not as though they were…what an amazing God! Thanks for the uplifting note on the end of the year.

  51. Deciduous Heather

    December 31, 2009 at 10:49 am

    Thank you, Melanie for such a poignant post…it really spoke to me and summed up my last year too. I agree that knowing all the answers does not require faith, BUT all these unknown variables flying around in air really scares me. I see that it really is a lesson in faith, and I hope to be able to grow and learn from it. I have enjoyed meeting you through your blog this year! YAY on spoiling your arm pits with aloe…lol. Happy New Year to you!!

  52. Charity Baillio

    December 31, 2009 at 10:51 am

    I needed to hear this. Thank you!

  53. Miranda M from KS

    December 31, 2009 at 11:06 am

    Thank you for such a beautiful revelation. This is definitely the kind of mood that I have been in at the end of this year, and that scripture needs to be written on my bathroom mirror!

  54. Show-Me Sooz

    December 31, 2009 at 11:09 am

    Melanie, you’re at the top of my blog list. I absolutely love reading your posts. I love hearing the slightest details and especially enjoy your dry wit and subtle expressions of humor that make me laugh out loud. You brighten my day! This post was what I needed to hear. That reference in Romans is one I don’t remember reading before, and it tugged at my heart. We own a car dealership in southwest Missouri, and it’s struggling. I appreciate you and this post. Let’s hope for a bright new year and great new decade. Just think, Caroline will be in her teens by the end of this decade…not to scare you or anything 😉

  55. Tonya

    December 31, 2009 at 11:10 am

    Great post Melanie!

    I so needed a reminder like this today. Thanks for such sweet honesty.

  56. NancysLostandFound

    December 31, 2009 at 11:10 am

    Thank you, Melanie, for a wondeful post and for your faithfulness to this whole blogging thing. It’s been a great joy and blessing to read your posts all year long.

    And I’m with you on the hearing God thing. But once, just once, I’d like to know what it feels like to actually BE everything that God sees in me. I mean, when Gideon did finally become a warrior, did God still a warrior, or did He see something else then? It(being what He sees, that is) can happen in this life, can’t it?

    Oh, I’m way too philosophical for this New Year’s Eve. For auld lange syne, my dear, for auld lange syne. We’ll take a cup of kindness yet…

  57. Amy

    December 31, 2009 at 11:11 am

    You know, that was just excellent. I myself am forging new waters of what looks like an impossible, dead-end situation regarding someone on my side of the family.The last four months since I was made aware of this matter have been excruciatingly heartbreaking. It’s one of the reasons I decided to have a celebration day of believing what God has already done in the spiritual realm.
    Otherwise, I was going to go nutty worrying about the impossiblities of it.

    Anyway, here’s to Romans 4 and that which God calls into being that does not exist.
    Thinking of you in this new year.
    Amy

  58. [email protected]

    December 31, 2009 at 11:11 am

    Melanie .. great minds think alike. Priscilla is speaking from Judges for her Jewelry Box entry for January that is out on her website today.

    You have made a difference w/ your blog and God is INDEED working through you. You have shared SO VERY wonderfully what He IS doing in your life .. in ways an average wife & momma can relate to .. THANK YOU.

    Happy New Year and I pray you continually hear His voice in your life each day that He gives you in 2010.

  59. Melanie

    December 31, 2009 at 11:13 am

    You, too!

  60. Sincerely Anna

    December 31, 2009 at 11:16 am

    Thanks for sharing your insight about that passage. I love the part about how having all the answers wouldn’t require faith. Happy New Year to you, too. I look forward to reading your blog everyday!

  61. barbara pierce

    December 31, 2009 at 11:17 am

    Amazing post…thank you for sharing your heart. I love reading your blog….your dry wit kills me!!!

  62. amy

    December 31, 2009 at 11:18 am

    Thanks for a great year- I love reading about your thoughts and your life every day. God has used you in amazing ways, even if you don’t see them all the time.

    Happy 2010!

  63. Rebecca at Alice

    December 31, 2009 at 11:29 am

    Secret deodorant is the best! 😉

    2009 was a rough year for so many, but I feel an upswing coming… 2010 is going to be a good one! I look forward to following your encouraging insights into the New Year.

  64. k&c's mom

    December 31, 2009 at 11:36 am

    Yes! I am ever convinced that God is always speaking: it is up to us to tune into the frequency. That only happens when we get still, and quiet and surrendered. (And that usually comes when we’ve been knocked off of our own “high place”.) That is the paradox: when we are WEAK, then He is STRONG. Doing nothing on our own allows Him to do everything.
    Blessings in 2010. Your blog in 2009 was a bright spot in my own journey through “the valley of the shadow”.

  65. Cydney

    December 31, 2009 at 11:39 am

    Amen, Amen, and Amen!

    Have a wonderful New Years Eve and a great New Year.

  66. gretchen

    December 31, 2009 at 12:02 pm

    Always lurve my visits here. I echo so many in thanking you for this “resolution” and for the reminder in Judges. Happy New Year, Big Mama.

  67. tacy

    December 31, 2009 at 12:04 pm

    Glad ’09 brought me your blog. I love reading your posts every morning. This particular one was thought provoking. Thank you, and Happy New Year!

  68. Amy

    December 31, 2009 at 12:17 pm

    Standing right beside you in the stagnant and wanting to move out of it.
    I pray 2010 is the year of renewing our faith in a God that already knows His plans for our lives!

  69. Susan

    December 31, 2009 at 12:20 pm

    What a good word for this Dec. 31st! One thing I do know — God used your words this year to remind us of the importance of celebrating our womanhood (Fashion
    Fridays :-), family time , friendships, our walk with Him, and the healing power of laughter and fun! Happy New Year!

  70. Aunt Sandra

    December 31, 2009 at 12:25 pm

    Dearest Mel,
    What a wonderful message you had for today. I so much needed the hope that you so aptly explained. Life can be so hard and it sometimes just pulls us inward. I know that faith and love in the Lord is what it is all about, but sometimes I forget. I am so proud of you as a woman, wife and mother. What a blessing you are to so many. Who would have thunk? that when you were little and so afraid of the dark, that you would see the light so clearly.
    Loveyou,
    Aunt Sandra

  71. Stephanie

    December 31, 2009 at 12:42 pm

    Loved this. I needed to hear the same thing. Love ya, sister.

  72. Mary Kat's Mom

    December 31, 2009 at 12:43 pm

    My goodness girl! You can preach! Amen! I am grateful for you, for the pictures and posts of Caroline, and the great recipes you share! I am thankful that you get to my heart with some of the things the Lord puts in your heart.
    Thank you for that and I am grateful for Precious Boomama pointing me in your direction.
    Lots of love in 2010.

  73. Quirky

    December 31, 2009 at 1:30 pm

    I just wanted you to know that is line, right here:

    “It’s been a year of me wanting to know all the answers, but at the same time realizing that knowing all the answers doesn’t require faith.”

    Smacked me right between the eyes like a wrecking ball. (To quote a Batman comic, “Bam! Ker-plow! Zowwie!”) Because I have spent the majority of 2009 asking, no begging, God for answers, and so far, He’s just been telling me to be patient. But to here it in your words brings me a great sense of…I don’t know, okayness, I guess. So thanks for that, and I hope you have a wonderful 2010.

  74. Sarah

    December 31, 2009 at 1:39 pm

    Big Mama,

    I love this post. This year has been, without a doubt, the most difficult in my life. My three-month-old son passed away from complications of a heart defect in May, my dad was critically ill and required emergency surgery and a month in ICU, and just when we thought things were calming down, my 5-year-old son became ill with pneumonia and scared the daylights out of us, and I am currently miscarrying a baby that we desperately prayed for and wanted. Many days this year (such as today) I have found myself still wearing pajamas and eating chocolate chip cookies at noon, reading blogs to pass the time and keep my mind of off things, and so many times this year I have come to your blog and you have made my laugh or cry (in a good way) and I thank you for that. This post reminds me that He can make good out of all of this…I just have to wait and see what His plans are. God bless, and happy New Year. I hope it treats you well.

    Sarah

  75. April

    December 31, 2009 at 1:49 pm

    I started reading your blog initially b/c I’m known as “Big Mama” too by my in-laws – my father-in-law dubbed me Big Mama after I was pregnant for practically 3 straight years. 🙂 Now I find your blog is the first one I turn to when I have a few spare minutes to catch up on my blog reading – I love it! I especially love this post! Thanks!

  76. Jenny from VA

    December 31, 2009 at 1:56 pm

    Big Mama

    I just wanted you to know that I will never in my life “judge” you! You are so hilarious and your writing is something that I look forward to reading. I think God has used this blog in ways that you will never know this side of glory!

    I love your resolution. I want to see what He sees too. No matter what 2010 brings I want to be found abiding in Him. Love you!

  77. Loretta

    December 31, 2009 at 2:28 pm

    What a wonderful post! I loved it and am taking it to heart. 🙂 2009 has been a difficult year for me and for my family, too. My cancer came back and I’m stage IV, been in chemo for a whole year now, and only God knows the outcome. But He DOES know, and has always known; He is not taken aback or by surprise by the events occurring in my life. My trust is in Him and I pray every day that He will use me in this trial as He sees fit, that He will work His perfect will in my life and in the lives of my husband and daughter, as we deal with this situation. He is still in control, and we rest in that knowledge.

    May you have a blessed, peaceful, and prosperous 2010!

    Hugs,
    Loretta in Georgia

  78. Carlisa

    December 31, 2009 at 3:28 pm

    Thank you so much for what you said today. I needed a reminder. There are a lot of things I need to change and to know that God sees the big picture when all I see is the mess of the canvas, paints and dropcloths all over.

  79. Nicole

    December 31, 2009 at 4:10 pm

    Thank you so much for the reminder! HE needs to be my priority in 2010! And as so many other commenters have said, I thank you for the laughs, fun & insight this past year via your blog. God Bless you & yours. Happy New Year! Nicole

  80. rebecca d

    December 31, 2009 at 4:42 pm

    Thank you…I needed that today.

  81. Marilyn

    December 31, 2009 at 4:51 pm

    I hate to say but I didn’t get finished reading the Bible through this year either! It usually takes me more like two years. Somehow I got WAY behind this year though!

    I think what you want for 2010 would be a good thing for me too…..”All that to say that I want 2010 to be about hearing His voice. Because He sees something where there is nothing and I want to see what He sees.” Very good ambition! For us all.

    Happy New Year!

    Marilyn…in Mississippi

  82. Debbie Braswell

    December 31, 2009 at 5:03 pm

    Big Mama,
    I don’t know you, but I often “stalk” your post b/c I love the way you look at life! I love your humor and your honesty, and you totally make me laugh! Whether you see it or not, God is using you and this blog to inspire and encourage many other sisters in Christ. Your life counts for a lot, and I am glad I can be a part of what God is doing in you. Happy New Year!

  83. Taylor

    December 31, 2009 at 5:21 pm

    Thank you for this, Miss Melanie. Blessings to you as you seek our gracious and very good God!

    ::Taylor

  84. pendy

    December 31, 2009 at 5:58 pm

    Amen. I’d be a lot better off if I’d just open my heart a bit more…

  85. Cindy

    December 31, 2009 at 7:17 pm

    This was so good for me. I, too, have been feeling a little stagnant. So glad you reminded me that He sees what isn’t yet.

    Oh, and don’t worry about being ‘judged’…God is thrilled that you got that far and Satan is ticked off about it, so I would call it a success!

  86. Jennifer

    December 31, 2009 at 9:14 pm

    Thanks for that great post to close out 2009. You’ve sure made me laugh a ton this year, but I also appreciate your transparency too. Praying for a super New Year for us all. Love ya sister!!

  87. Marianne DiSabato

    December 31, 2009 at 10:31 pm

    hi, melanie,
    I read you blog faithfully because it makes me laugh and because you often talk about Caroline and let’s face it… she’s plain old darling. Our family is going through its greatest trial right now and I thought of writing a comment yesterday just to tell you that sometimes when you think and write “I got nothin'”, there always seems to be SOMETHING that brings me at least a tiny smile or snicker. This past week, late at night, when I am struggling to hide from fear and pain, I log on hoping to find some familiar comfort in your stories of Perry and Caroline and maybe another bit of laughter to lift my spirits. Alas, I have never posted a comment before and again, I did not yesterday. But, tonight in the hospital when all is quiet for while, I found myself logging on to see if you could maybe make me laugh. And what did I find but a reference to Gideon.. and God seeing in him something good and powerful? It is a lesson I most need to read and reflect upon today as the circumstances that I see before me with my human eyes do not look “good” or of “good purpose” in ANY way. Thank you for reminding me that what I see with my own eyes is scarcely relevant and that only thing that matters is steadfast faith and trust in the Lord’s perfect plan… and to pray for the peace that surpasses human understanding for Chris, Courtney, Joey and I. Melanie, consider that on the days (perhaps when you are least aware) you have not “stalled” at all but given hope to an old friend late at night. Love, Marianne

  88. Chris

    January 1, 2010 at 12:29 am

    Thanks Sister, Ive never been here before, but somehow I am here to read that.

    God sees in me what I cannot see in myself……YET!

  89. MJ

    January 1, 2010 at 1:38 am

    I know at times we all think that what we do doesn’t seem to matter. I want you to know that through your humorous and heartfelt posts, you bring a smile to many people you don’t know. That matters. Everyone needs a smile and you give that to us, even if you don’t get to see it. You are a mighty warrior just by sharing the joys and pleasures in your everyday life and by showing a great love for your family and friends. I hope that you and your family have a wonderful new year.

  90. Dina

    January 1, 2010 at 11:36 am

    I really appreciate your ability to give a GREAT Bible lesson that I needed to hear and the fact that you keep me up to date on all the fashion trends. That’s quite a combo! I hope you have a happy and blessed 2010.

  91. Susan

    January 1, 2010 at 1:10 pm

    You must know that God used you this morning. I am planning for a Ladies’ Bible class that starts on Wednesday. I am always humbled when asked to do these things – I’m not old enough, wise enough, do I have the time, can I do the job that God wants done here? The list goes on and on. I love this story about Gideon, and the connection to Romans 4 is perfect for my introduction class. Thank you for sharing what was put on your heart for this stranger who needed your “word”.
    Have a Blessed 2010 – full of God’s voice, for YOU!

  92. Omom

    January 1, 2010 at 5:40 pm

    wow! You could have written this for me. Except I didn’t have quite as many laughs as you seemed to have, so thank you for sharing yours with us. Blessing to you and your family this year.

  93. Melanie

    January 1, 2010 at 10:11 pm

    Thanks so much for this, Melanie. Wow. I wrote that Romans verse in my journal at the beginning of 2009, which for me has also been a difficult year. I prayed it and tried to be mindful of it each day, but I had forgotten it in recent months. The Lord used you to remind me of it and that He is able to transform me and work in areas in which I’ve become hopeless.

    Oh…and I absolutely love the “field trip” euphemism. My life is FULL of single college/professional ladies – can’t wait to use Caroline’s wisdom on them! : )

    Praying for you (and me) to hear and believe His voice in 2010….

  94. Becky

    January 1, 2010 at 11:06 pm

    Thank you for bringing a laugh to my life almost every day! God is good!

  95. nikki

    January 1, 2010 at 11:24 pm

    Ummm…everyone is all inspirational and saying lovely things, but I just want you to know that I started using this deodorant too after many years attached to another…and I LOVE it. It doesn’t smell like B.O. with a cucumber accent. It just smells nice.

  96. Tammy

    January 2, 2010 at 11:22 am

    YES! I want to hear his voice more clearly this year

  97. haley

    January 2, 2010 at 12:37 pm

    I so needed to hear that. Thanks for the reminder!

  98. Margaret

    January 2, 2010 at 6:20 pm

    Thanks for the great post! I’m so in the same place!! I really want to hear, see and feel God this year! My focus is on being a servant to Him. I’m reading Dug Down Deep by Joshua Harris, great book to start off the year with purpose!

  99. Chelsea

    January 2, 2010 at 11:19 pm

    Thanks for such an honest post!

  100. Jasmine

    January 3, 2010 at 9:52 pm

    That stuff burns my underarms…. the deodorant… not your post.

  101. denise

    January 4, 2010 at 2:42 am

    I’m catching up on your posts tonight, and this one struck me. Earlier today, a friend sent me a poem called, “The Invisible Mother” … have you read it before? It totally clicked with me, and the feelings you describe from the past year are so similar to mine! Give it a read, and set your sights on having a Happy, blessed and prosperous 2010!

    http://www.authorsden.com/categories/story_top.asp?id=37319&catid=76

  102. Laura

    January 4, 2010 at 1:09 pm

    God used you today. I may have to print, cut and post this to my wall. I recently drew a picture of where I see my life in 3 years. Everyone was in it except me. I am glad God sees my future because I am clueless!
    And on a funny note, on the post-it next to me going to Target it says, “Deodorant, containers, white socks”

    Happy New Year Melanie!

  103. Kimberly

    January 4, 2010 at 11:12 pm

    Great post to close one year and look ahead to the next. So enjoy your thoughts, you always make me laugh and hit the points just what I’m thinking on topics too, from childhood to husbands, deer hunting to scarves, 1980’s big hair to aloe deoderant to start this
    new decade….. And everything in between, thanks!!

  104. Heather

    January 5, 2010 at 3:51 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing this. My husband and I have been struggling with infertility for five years. To make a super-long story short, 2 1/2 years ago we were one week away from starting IVF. Suddenly, out of the blue we were blessed with the opportunity to adopt our daughter. There is absolutely no doubt in my mind that she is the child the Lord had for us. She’s absolutely amazing.

    Now, I’m coming down with the baby bug again, and am finding myself so discouraged and frustrated, even though I know the mighty things the Lord can do.

    Your post was such an encouragement to me. 🙂 Blessings to you in the new year!

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This is when it pays to have a written history to help myself  remember I shouldn’t have been surprised by anything that transpired this week.
A friend texted me this photo the other day. It wa A friend texted me this photo the other day. It was taken my last semester at Texas A&M and I’m with a group of friends at a Wes King concert at Wolf Pen Creek. (Shout out to those of you old enough to remember what a gift Wes King was to Christian music in the early 90s.) I had recently found my way back to God after a long hiatus and wasn’t entirely sure how I ended up at this concert with some new friends who wore Jesus t-shirts, but was so grateful to be there because I felt content and happy for the first time in years. ⁣
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The point of this picture is that if you look on the left you will see a young Perry Shankle with glasses wearing a white t-shirt. And if you look on the far right you will see a young Melanie Marino with an aggressive side part. I don’t think we even spoke to each other at the concert that night. No one would have put us together because we were complete and total opposites. And I like to think God laughed knowing what was ahead. ⁣
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A year later, we started dating. And three years from just about the day this photo was taken, we were engaged. And currently, we’ve been married almost 25 years and are cleaning out the attic together today which is the height of romance. What I’m saying is dream big, kids. You never know what is waiting right around the corner, right in front of you, that will change your life. ⁣
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Side note: If you look closely you’ll see that my friend Jen and I are sitting on a blue striped comforter. Perry still sleeps with that exact comforter every single night so what I’m saying is that on that night back in 1994, he had no idea he was with his future wife and a blanket he would treasure, lo, all these years later. God is good. ⁣
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