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Two decades later

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It has been twenty years ago today that these two crazy kids walked down an aisle and vowed to love and cherish each other for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, ’til death do us part.

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Honestly?

We had no idea what any of that really meant.

But here we are twenty years later.

We have laughed and fought and cried and driven each other crazy. We’ve celebrated victories, mourned losses, balanced checkbooks, and survived several house projects. We have almost raised our baby, sat in hospital waiting rooms, survived career changes, and have yet to really agree on what makes a good movie or T.V. show. We are each other’s first call, last goodnight, and chief defender.

Twenty years feels like a milestone, even though I always had faith that we’d make it this far. Because at the end of the day, above all else, we are committed to each other. We are committed to this life we have made and so we have chosen each other time and time again, no matter what comes our way.

It also helps that he still makes me laugh every single day, which offsets how crazy it makes me that he doesn’t know how to throw Band-Aid wrappers in the trash.

Happy 20th Anniversary, Perry. I love you more today than I did twenty years ago.

And I still regret cutting those bangs the week before our wedding.

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  3. Happy anniversary, Mel and P!! If it makes you feel better, my husband does not know how to throw Band Aid wrappers away either!

  4. Happy anniversary to you! Thanks for being a great example for the next generation! Congrats!

  5. Congratulations!! What a great picture of you both. 20 years is a milestone worth celebrating!

  6. Happy anniversary! 20 years is a big one! I have to agree with you on not being able to agree on what constitutes a good show or movie. My husband and I are on opposite planes on that one too! We did both briefly watch Grey’s Anatomy together when it first started….but it was all downhill from there.

  7. Oh, your bangs look cute! Happy 20th! I just celebrated my 23rd. August is a big month for your household! Prayers for many more years!

  9. Happy happy 20th! It’s a good thing none of us can see into the future! Otherwise our answer to that marriage and family question might be more like, “yeah, think I’ll take a pass on that!”

  10. Congrats! I remember a Ranger chaplain telling us that the only thing that would determine whether or not our marriage would last was our ability to commit. Obviously he was so wrong, because what about our love or our similar tastes in books, movies and movies? But, I have come to believe he was right. Nothing else really matters if you can’t commit to staying married.

  12. Happy 20th, and many more returns of the day! My husband of 27 years now leaves his nose strip wrappers on the counters in addition to band-aid wrappers, and I love him still.

  13. Happy 20th Anniversary! That is a milestone to be proud of in this day and time. Congrats on your commitment. ?

  15. Twenty years is a big one!! Congratulations!!

    At some point, you should give us a bang retrospective. We all have a history with them, yes we do.

  19. That is a great pic, such youth and innocence but so deliriously happy looking! Love it!

  22. I laughed out loud at the last line. I saw that wedding photo and thought to myself, “I want bangs!” And then you put me right back in my place. No, no, I do NOT want bangs. But those bangs, in that photo, from 20 years ago, make a girl think about the possibility of some bangs.

  24. Only 5 years and 15 days separate us from our Alamo Heights Methodist weddings. Our pics are not so great due to that deep red carpet and those dark wood walls. Oh well! Congratulations on 20 years! A milestone for sure. So happy for you both.

  25. Happy Anniversary!!! I love that picture of you both. It’s frameworthy. Such joy and happiness on your faces. I share an anniversary and birthday month with you. We got married outside in the hot August heat two weeks after my birthday.

    And, I know you have lamented bangs, in general, on your blog before but you look great with them. I’ve tried them, and they only looked for for approximately 1.7 days. Beforehand they would be too short, and afterwards, they would be too long.

  26. Happy Anniversary and honestly when are bangs ever a good idea? Chalk it up to bring young and in love blinding your better judgement.

  28. I LOVE the bangs. And, having already read and loved The Church of Small Things, I gasped when I saw them.

    Even though I thing you are wrong about bangs, I will recommend your book to everyone.