Month: November 2011

  • All this talk of dreams makes me think of Van Halen

    I will have y’all know that after a day of dust and climbing up a very steep hill in a dusty corner of Equador that I’m currently sitting in a hotel lobby listening to a piano player belt out the classic You Can Do Magic by America.

    Somewhere in there might be some symbolism but I am too tired to look for it right now.

    Sadly at some point in the last twenty-four hours I have developed a bit of a cough. Not a bronchitis cough, just more of an annoying cough that comes with allergies. Apparently there is something in the air here that doesn’t agree with me. And I have no doubt that Sophie is overjoyed to be sharing a room with me at this point.

    I’ll also have you know that at one point last night I was so desperate to quit coughing that I sucked on a piece of Eclipse gum in the hopes it would serve as a makeshift cough drop. And it did work fairly well but let me say that it’s an odd sensation to wake up in the morning with a piece of soggy gum in your mouth.

    But none of that is important. I’m just filling you in so you will know that I am the same person in Ecuador as I am in the United States. A person with a hacking cough in need of a cough drop.

    I bet P has never been so glad that I am out of town.

    On Tuesday when we were at Child Development Center 478, the pastor of the local church greeted us when we arrived. He talked about how thankful he is for the work Compassion is doing and how it helps the community and the children. But then he said something else that has stuck with me over twenty-four hours later, “We support these children to dream”.

    We support these children to dream.

    And on Wednesday I was able to see the reality of that statement.

    We began the day at breakfast with two college students who are part of Compassion’s Leadership Development Program (LDP), Ruben and Evelyn. The Leadership Development Program looks for children in Child Development Centers with leadership potential and academic promise and assists them with tuition, textbooks, and other school-related expenses through LDP sponsorship.

    Both Evelyn and Ruben became a part of Compassion’s Child Development Center when they were four years old and talked about the difference their sponsors made in their lives. How they were encouraged to work hard in school, to seek God and to stay the course. It was the spark they needed to begin to see that it was okay to dream. And now Ruben is studying to be an architect and Evelyn plans to become a lawyer. These are kids that came from nothing. From one-room cinder block homes with no indoor plumbing and a neighborhood that could have crushed them, but Compassion supported those children to dream. For $38 a month Ruben and Evelyn were able to grow up believing it was okay to think of a brighter future.

    And isn’t that what God promises us in Jeremiah 29:11? For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

    Compassion has helped make that a reality in their lives.

    Then later in the day we all got in what I like to refer to as our Ecuadorian Family Good Times Bus and drove to Child Development Center 431 known as the Viva Abundante Center (That’s Life Abundant for those of y’all who don’t know Spanish. See what two days in Ecuador has done for me? I’m almost fluent unless you need to know anything besides a person’s name and how old they are.) We arrived at Viva Abundante and separated into groups to visit various homes of children that are sponsored through Compassion.

    I was with the Farmer, Ann, Keely and Brian as we climbed down a very large, dusty hill until we arrived at a two-room house made of cinder blocks. There was nothing in the main room except for a shelf with a few random things on it and then the mother led us into the bedroom that she and her husband share with their four children. There is no indoor plumbing and only a very rudimentary outdoor kitchen.

    The remarkable thing is this couple has been married for fifteen years and are raising their four children together as a family. This seems to be a rarity from all that I’ve seen in the time I’ve spent traveling with Compassion. The father does his best to support his family through working in agriculture and the mother washes clothes to help out.

    The mother and father sat on their bed with their children gathered around them and talked about how much Compassion has helped them. They attend church as a family and their boys literally run to the Center every day after school.

    We asked the kids what they wanted to be when they grew up and they answered with “a lawyer”, “a fireman”, “a police officer”, and “a doctor”. Then we asked the mother and father what dreams they had for their lives and the father looked at us solemnly as he answered that all they wanted was to see their children become professionals. They wanted to see their children have the opportunity to become the generation that gets out of poverty.

    Wow. Isn’t that what we all want as parents? To see our children become a better version of ourselves? To see them have a chance to realize their dreams?

    And since it was fresh on our mind, we asked if they knew about Compassion’s Leadership Development Program. We explained through the translator that if the boys work really hard in school and continue on a good path there is a chance Compassion might be able to help them achieve some of their dreams. The dreams to be a lawyer, a police officer, a doctor, and a fireman.

    Compassion supports these children to dream.

    You can support these children to dream. I mean is there a better way to spend $38 a month than on these sweet faces? Little lives just full of potential that’s waiting for a chance to get out.

    (All photos are once again by Keely Scott. She is amazing.)

    So tomorrow morning we are leaving bright and early for the Amazon Rainforest. This is the part of the trip that apparently involves canoe trips and the possibility of monkeys that have been described as “assertive” and maybe an anaconda or three. Oh my word.

    Send help.

    Or just remember us in your prayers. For safe travel, for great visits and for words that come easily because how am I ever going to tell that story?

    Love y’all. Thanks for reading and following this journey. And don’t forget that you can check out posts by Ann, Sophie, Kelly, and Amanda on the Compassion Bloggers page.

  • And this is just the first day

    I’ll just be honest. I have no idea where or how to begin this. So I’m going to do something completely novel and start at the beginning.

    I was born in Houston, Texas in 1971.

    What? Too much?

    Okay, so P dropped me off at the airport on Monday morning. I caught a flight to Dallas. And then Miami. Once I arrived in Miami I met up with all my fellow Compassion travelers and ate a salad at the Fridays in the Miami Airport that left me full of regret. That’s what I get for trying to be healthy.

    We finally boarded our plane bound for Quito and I had the joy of sitting across the aisle from Sophie while the man in front of her decided to lean his chair so far back that I feel quite certain she could have performed a root canal on him had the need arisen. (Arisen? Arose? I have struggled with it for the last three minutes. Moving on.) And after almost four hours, the pilot announced we were making our descent into Quito. Unless it was too foggy. In which case we would be routed to Guayaquil. Well. Sure. No cause for panic. Except for all the panic.

    But we were able to land in Quito, discovered all our bags made it, and took a shuttle to the hotel. By this time it was 2:00 a.m. so the last thing I remember is passing out face first into my bed.

    And when the sun came up this morning I looked out the window and had this moment of I AM IN ECUADOR. Because there are mountains on the horizon and we don’t have those in San Antonio.

    The group left the hotel around 9:00 and made the hour and a half journey to Cayambe. On a very windy road. Up a mountain. In a bus. I had to practice some deep-breathing to ward off the car sickness but I managed. Tomorrow I plan to take a Dramamine.

    But on the way there we made a quick stop at the Equator and I can now say that I have stood smack dab in the middle of the Earth. We also stopped to go to the bathroom at a Pollo Loco gas station but it really lacked in the cool factor compared to the Equator.

    We finally arrived at the Child Development Center and, after a brief welcome from the pastor, divided into three groups to go make home visits. Amanda, Chris, Carmen and I loaded up into the back of a truck and were driven to our visit over cobblestone roads that didn’t do my bladder any favors, but I mind over mattered that whole thing because we were about to experience what Andrea, our Compassion leader from Ecuador, termed A Day In the Life of A Compassion Child. Or as I now call it The Day I Discovered I Am A Soft, Spoiled American.

    Because, y’all, we went to visit two precious kids, Alex and Amie, who are being raised by their grandmother since their mother passed away from cancer two years ago and their father left. Alex is a sponsored Compassion child and immediately pulled out his letters from the family in Colorado who sponsors him. They showed us their tiny little rooms situated right next to where they keep the guinea pigs and broke our hearts as they talked about how they missed their mom.

    And then the grandmother showed us the large garden in the back of their house where she grows food for them to eat and also to sell in an effort to provide for the family. That’s when she handed us all various garden tools and showed us how to till the dirt so she could plant beet seeds. First of all, I had no idea that beets grew from seed. Mainly because I’ve never thought about it. Secondly, I have no future as a farmer. Or a gardener. Or basically anyone who does a lot of manual labor involving a garden hoe.

    But that sweet grandmother hoed about four rows in the time it took me to finish one half. Amie and Alex followed behind her carefully planting beet seeds and taking turns climbing up the nearby tomato tree. Because, yes, tomatoes grow on trees here.

    The thing that struck me was that we visited this family with two of their Compassion teachers, Maria and Myra, and it was clear how much these women love these children. They have worked hard to step in to help fill the gap that has been left by the loss of their mother and father. And you could see that the children love and trust Maria and Myra and their faces lit up when they talked about the time they spend singing and drawing pictures at the Child Development Center. It’s a bright spot in a world that could have gone totally dark after they lost their parents.

    Speaking of a bright spot (How about that transition? And I’ve only had four hours of sleep in the last twenty-four hours!) I met the sweet little girl that we just started to sponsor before I left for this trip.

    Her name is Heydi and she’s six years old and I could have put her in my pocket and carried her around. I’m not kidding. She was that cute with a shy smile that totally melted my heart as I gave her a little tiara I bought at Target. Because what girl doesn’t love a tiara? It’s a universal love language.

    And it was the smile that really got me. Three years ago on my trip to the Dominican Republic I had a chance to meet my sponsored child and she never smiled. Not one time. And I understood. I was a total stranger to her and she’d already seen enough of life to know that it may not be a good idea to hand out your heart. But it made me sad to see a little girl without some joy.

    (Just so you know the most recent photos I’ve received of my child in the DR show a little girl with a faint hint of a smile. I’d like to believe Compassion is responsible for that.)

    Anyway, when I received my sponsorship packet of this little girl in Ecuador named Heydi, I was immediately hit with how somber she appeared. No smile. Just a grim little face looking into the camera. Even Caroline noticed and before I left on Monday, as she helped me pack a little backpack full of things to give to Heydi, she said, “Mama? Do you think Heydi is going to smile when she meets you? I really want her to smile.”

    And I said, “Well, let’s just pray that she does.”

    She did.

    At first it was just an unsure smile.

    But before I left it was a full-blown grin. Maybe even with a little laugh.

    And it turned my heart inside out. I hugged her goodbye and promised my family would pray for her every day. I told her God has plans for her life and I’m going to write her letters to encourage her to follow Him. And then I waved at her through the window of the bus and she waved back and I fought back tears as I left more than a little piece of my heart at Child Development Center 478 in Cayambe, Ecuador.

    But I get to go home and tell Caroline that I saw Heydi smile and show her photographs to prove it. And as much as I love the experience of actually getting to meet one of my sponsored kids in real life, the real gift is what it has taught my family. The photos of the kids we sponsor through Compassion are on a bulletin board in our kitchen, I have bookmarks with their pictures on them tucked into my Bible, and we pray for them every night.

    Sponsoring children through Compassion has allowed me to give Caroline a larger picture of the world around her and to know that there are kids who wonder where their next meal will come from or where they will sleep that night. We get to have discussions about the things God has entrusted to our family and how we can use those gifts to help the world around us.

    Compassion has helped me teach compassion.

    And I will be forever grateful for that gift.

    There are lots of kids waiting to be sponsored at Child Development Center 478 in Ecuador.
    You can click on this page to see all their sweet faces.

    Or there are plenty of children all over Ecuador who need to be sponsored. You can see them all by visiting this Ecuador page on the Compassion site.

    At the very least it will change your life. At the very best it gives you a tangible way to change the life of one of these precious kids.

    (All the photos on this post are courtesy of the brilliant, amazing Keely Scott.)

  • Ready or not, Ecuador. Here we come.

    All I know is it’s a good thing I got an extra hour this weekend because I needed it. Because even with the addition of the extra hour, I still feel like I am just barely getting everything done I need to do before I leave San Antonio at 10:30 Monday morning on a flight to Dallas. And then a flight to Miami. And then a flight to Quito, Ecuador.

    It didn’t help that I spent a lot of Sunday afternoon taking Caroline and her friend Gabi to watch the Aggie women’s soccer team win the Big XII Championship, but it was so worth it. And then I rushed back home to discover thankfully that P had ordered pizza for dinner. But then I still cooked a chicken and wild rice casserole and a lasagna because I don’t want my people to starve while I’m away. I also made homemade blueberry muffins.

    I never make homemade blueberry muffins.

    Which is why P walked in the kitchen a little while ago and asked, “Why are you making muffins?” And I said, “So y’all will have something to eat for breakfast while I’m gone. Apparently I care more about that when I’m in Ecuador than I do when I’m actually here and could, you know, cook breakfast.”

    And he just left the room, shaking his head. I can’t explain why leaving the country makes me feel the need to provide baked goods for my family. Maybe so if something happens to me they’ll have short term memory and say, “MAN, remember how she used to make those delicious homemade muffins all the time?”

    In truth, it’s probably a little nervous energy that I’m trying to burn. My suitcases (Yes, TWO. This is very strategic because I found out that you’re charged $100 for a bag over 50 pounds, but only $30 for an extra bag.) are mostly packed with the exception of my rainforest clothes that are still drying after P doused them in what I hope was plenty of mosquito spray. I have a backpack full of granola bars and a book to read and a change of clothes in case my suitcases don’t make it. I even have a travel toothbrush in a special case. I’m very fancy.

    But I don’t like leaving my people. Not even for cool trips to Ecuador with people I love. Not even when I know without a doubt that God has called me to go. I am a homebody. Not to be confused with a homeboy. Even though maybe somewhere, somehow I might be someone’s homeboy.

    I like my house, I like my bed, I like my Mexican food, I like to take Caroline to school every morning and pick her up every afternoon. I like to be able to call Gulley every five minutes if I want to and I like to see P walk through the back door at the end of the day.

    So why am I going? Because when I went to the Dominican Republic with Compassion three years ago, it changed me forever. It made me look outside my comfortable little world to a world where kids don’t have beds or enough to eat or clean water to drink and the amazing way Compassion is stepping in to change lives. And going to Ecuador gives me a way to help with that. It’s not much. A few words on a computer screen and a week of my time, but it’s something.

    And, truthfully, I’m excited about getting to spend time with some of my favorite people even though we will be in canoes and among snakes and possibly a marauding band of free-range monkeys. I don’t have the-meeting-new-people-anxiety I had before I went on the trip to the Dominican. These are people who (mostly) know me and I know that I am going to laugh and cry with them a lot over the next five days. And I can’t wait to read Ann Voskamp’s first post that will probably say something incredibly eloquent and poetic about how “dappled sunlight moves through the trees, stirring soul and lighting the way to gratitude to our God for all his gifts”.

    Meanwhile, I’ll be here writing, “Y’ALL. A SNAKE FELL IN OUR CANOE AND I YELLED A BAD WORD IN FRONT OF ANN VOSKAMP.”

    But I’m also not naive like I was the last time I left to go on a trip with Compassion. I know at least some of what I’m going to see and I know it’s going to break my heart. I know there will be children I wish I could pack up and bring home with me. I know there will be living conditions I can’t imagine and I know I will be wrecked by both what I see and fresh realization at my own poverty of spirit. I’ll be challenged by the contentment they have while living next to the city dump and why I often struggle with contentment while I live a comfortable middle class existence filled with luxuries they can’t imagine, like water straight from the tap. I know I’ll come home changed and with a piece of my heart gone forever to Ecuador.

    And that makes a part of me start to ache even as I sit here on my couch and have yet to set foot in another country.

    So I hope y’all will join me for my trip this week. I’ll be posting here every single day and doing my best to tell y’all what we’re doing and what we’re seeing. The good, the bad, the incredibly humbling, the free range monkeys. I can’t thank you enough for all your prayers. I know for all of us going this week that our biggest prayer is that God would use our words to inspire others to sponsor a child (or children!) through Compassion.

    And if you could also pray for safety while we travel, health for us and those we love at home, and that no snakes fall in our canoe? Well that would be great, too.

    You can follow along with all of us by clicking on the Compassion Bloggers Ecuador page.

  • Fashion Friday: Edition I should be packing

    Well, technically I can wait one more day to start packing. But my suitcase is just sitting there, taunting me every time I walk by it. And I’m fairly certain part of that taunt includes something along the lines of YOU’RE NEVER GOING TO FIT EVERYTHING IN HERE THAT YOU WANT TO TAKE WITH YOU.

    Because it’s not just clothes. And the sweet camo hunting boots I’m bringing to wear in the Amazon. I also want to pack some stickers and bubbles and things like that for the kids in Ecuador.

    As a matter of fact, I went to Walmart yesterday to get a few supplies and other things. I even bought some kind of traveler probiotic that’s supposed to protect my intestines in case I eat a bad guinea pig.

    There’s a sentence I never thought I’d type.

    I’m not normally a Walmart shopper. They just always seem so crowded and it seems easier to go to Target. But yesterday I went to Walmart because Target didn’t have much to offer in the way of small toys. And this is my question, why do so many people who shop at Walmart drive those electric carts? It’s an epidemic.

    None of that has anything to do with fashion. But here are a few things I’ve found this week.

    1. bennington corduroy coat

    I like this coat. It’s a little unexpected twist with the corduroy.

    2. daniel rainn grecian top

    This is simple but would be a great addition to a closet.

    3. april sweater tunic

    Now this? I love. Love the stripes. Love the black and gray. Love the whole thing. It just works.

    4. harvest season ruffle scarf

    Love a scarf in this mustard color.

    5. windswept prairie cardigan

    This is really pretty. And I like that it’s a lightweight layer because I often need something lighter even though I do love a sweater.

    6. tartan boucle blazer

    Man, I really like this. But you know what I don’t need? Another blazer-type thing. I always think I’m going to wear them more than I really do and then they just sit in my closet and get lonely and sad.

    Still, maybe this time would be different.

    7. cozy weekend away dress

    This is a great dress. And could be worn by itself or with a great long-sleeve shirt under it. Maybe with tights and boots.

    8. mossimo poncho sweater

    I was dropping Caroline off at school yesterday. It was one of our rare chilly mornings and I saw a mom dressed in all black with a camel-colored poncho thrown over the whole ensemble and I thought it just looked great.

    9. stretch knit leggings

    Yes. Leggings. Boring. Except I felt like you should know I believe Gap has the best leggings. And that’s being said after extensive leggings research.

    10. orange and gray jersey knit infinity scarf

    This is really cute. And it looks like it comes in some other colors.

    That’s it for today.

    Y’all have a great Friday.
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  • As if I didn’t have enough to worry about

    Right now I’m pretty much in full Ecuador freak out.

    By which I mean I’m a little stressed about getting all my ducks in a row before I leave for Ecuador on Monday morning, not some new kind of dance or anything. Just thought I should clarify after the whole “hot garbage” debacle this week.

    I have an extra large, very empty suitcase sitting in my bathroom and some very sporty cargo pants and long sleeve outdoorsy-type shirts that are just waiting to be sprayed down with the high-powered mosquito spray I ordered from Cabelas a few weeks ago. I don’t know what I’m looking forward to the most, dodging the mosquitoes in the rainforest or getting to dress like P for two days in a row.

    But I still need to go to the grocery store and Target and load up on Immodium AD because, you know, I’m going to South America and here’s hoping I don’t need it but that’s not the kind of chance you want to take. Especially after I read in my travel guide that one of the local delicacies is roasted guinea pig. As in a guinea pig.

    I think I’m going to pass.

    Although I bet it tastes like chicken.

    And since I have Ecuador on my brain or en mi cerebro as they might say there, (I have no idea if that’s right) I thought about a discussion I had with Gulley’s boys the other day.

    I picked Jackson and Will up from school a couple of weeks ago. We were catching up on all the important news, who played with who at recess and what they served in the cafeteria that day, when I asked if they knew I was going to Ecuador and the Amazon Rainforest in November.

    Will said, “OH MEL! My friend Trey in my class loves piranhas. Can you bring him back a piranha?”

    “Well. That might be a little hard to do. I’m kind of hoping I don’t come across any piranhas. Plus, what if they bite me?”

    Will responded, “They won’t bite. They don’t really eat people, Mel.”

    But that’s when Jackson interrupted. And here is a side story that may not seem relevant right now, but bear with me. Gulley and I have always laughed at Nena’s (that’s Gulley’s grandmother if you’re new here) ability to go straight to worst case scenario. She has a gift. And she likes to bring you right to her level of worry. Nena isn’t the person you want to call if you have a hangnail and are slightly concerned and looking for a little reassurance. She is a walking WebMD and will take you straight to a place of total despair. Calling Nena is worse than googling your symptoms on the internet.

    For example, Gulley has repeatedly told me about a time she had a pimple on her face and Nena told her not to pick at it because she knew a girl who did that one time and the pimple got infected and SHE DIED.

    Nena has known people who have died from toothaches, mosquito bites, ingrown hairs, and over-plucking their eyebrows. She also once knew a girl who agreed to break up with her boyfriend because her parents promised they’d buy her a pet monkey instead. That has nothing to do with this story, but it always makes me laugh so I felt like I should throw it in. It’s like a bonus.

    Anyway, Will had just informed me that piranhas don’t eat people when Jackson piped up and announced, “YES THEY DO, WILL. THEY DO EAT PEOPLE. I just heard a story the other day about a bus driver that was driving a bus full of people down to the Amazon River and he fell asleep at the wheel and drove the bus right into the river and everyone on board got eaten by piranhas. THEY ALL DIED.”

    It was like Nena had just climbed in the back seat of my car.

    I have no doubt Jackson’s story will bring me great comfort as I ride ON A BUS DOWN TO THE AMAZON RIVER next week.

  • Back to junior high

    Well I inadvertently created a lot of confusion yesterday. I didn’t mean to send you all searching the internet for a candy product called Hot Garbage.

    When I wrote my list of Halloween candy from best to worst, I literally meant hot garbage. As in I’d rather eat garbage that is hot before I’d eat Twizzlers or Dots or Lemonheads. I find them to be waxy and tasteless and similar to chewing on a shoe. Well, except for Lemonheads. They’re like chewing on an inexplicably sour shoe.

    I hope that clears it up.

    So you know what I did yesterday?

    (Besides lament that no one got my hot garbage humor?)

    I spent the day with a bunch of sixth graders from the local junior high. One of my friends is an English teacher and thought it might be fun to have me come in and talk to the kids about how to write a personal narrative. And I agreed it might be fun just as soon as she explained to me what a personal narrative is.

    It turns out it’s what I write on the blog every day. Who knew this fell into any kind of real category other than PURE NONSENSE?

    So I tried to put together a little talk on writing that I hoped would appeal to sixth graders. The only problem was I don’t really know any sixth graders. And I haven’t been a sixth grader in twenty-nine years. All I really remember about that whole experience is that the sixth grade band director at Bammel Middle School made me play the flute instead of the clarinet because my mouth was shaped wrong for the flute. Clearly I still bear the scars of my flute rejection.

    I also remember that I wore an unfortunate red gingham shirt with a denim prairie skirt and Sperry topsiders in my school picture that year. And that my front teeth were enormous in proportion to the rest of my face.

    And none of those things really have anything to do with writing.

    I told them about the importance of noticing the things around you and trying to make them interesting. We talked about how you have to write often to write well and that reading a variety of books makes you a better writer. I may have told them that they’ll rarely use Geometry once they’re in the real world, but they will always have a need to write well. And I told them not to get caught up in the trap of feeling like what they write has to be perfect on the first or even second attempt. I think it’s obvious that isn’t my struggle. Perfectionism requires a lot of time and effort.

    Then I confessed that I graduated from college before I ever knew that the internet existed.

    That’s when they all looked at me like I was a walking, breathing antique. Like their Great Aunt Maude had just walked into the room and put her teeth out on the table and hiked up her girdle.

    In reality they were very sweet and much more attentive than I thought they’d be. Even though I’m pretty sure they didn’t get any of my jokes. They asked a lot of questions and it was a lot of fun. And I told a few of them (Lilly and Katherine) that I’d mention them by name on the blog today.

    And here’s what I learned:

    1. Sixth grade was a long time ago.

    2. I have a new respect for teachers that get up and teach the same class multiple times in a day. My throat was sore and I was sick of myself by the end of the day.

    3. Sixth graders are a lot cuter than I remember being at that age.

    4. Apparently it’s okay to wear Nike running shorts with cowboy boots. I had no idea.

    5. I’m pretty sure anyone who graduated from college before the internet was invented is too old to wear running shorts and cowboy boots.

    Here’s hoping they learned at least that much.